Causes of bitterness in marital relationships: The thread of relationships is very delicate. To keep it healthy and happy for a long life, it is very important to have love, respect, understanding and trust towards each other. If these factors are not present in your married life or have started decreasing gradually, then it will not take long for the relationship to break. Often you must have heard, read or seen news that so and so’s husband strangled his wife to death in a fit of anger. Recently, a man living in Ghaziabad (Uttar Pradesh) first strangled his wife to death with a scarf and then committed suicide by using the same scarf as a noose to hang herself. According to reports, the couple allegedly had several disputes over the woman’s commute to work. Police also suspect that this incident occurred due to a domestic dispute.
Often the reasons for fights between husband and wife are extra marital affairs, suspicion of each other, social pressure, discord at home, disputes over money etc. Due to many other reasons, married life gets spoiled and a situation of tension and bitterness arises in the marital relationship. In such a situation, people who are very angry, aggressive or suspicious, often take wrong steps, which result in murder or suicide. Doubt ruins any relationship. To live a perfect married life, it is very important to have complete trust in each other.
Why does bitterness arise in the relationship between husband and wife? (Causes of Resentment in Relationship)
1. Due to many reasons, bitterness starts appearing in the relationship between husband and wife. This increases a lot of stress in the relationship. It is said that husband and wife are two wheels of a car. They have to maintain balance in life. If there is a lack of mutual understanding between husband and wife and both are not helping each other to move forward, then the wheel of their married life may wobble.
2. Married life gradually starts becoming bitter when interest and interest in each other starts decreasing. One reason for this could also be increased attachment and attraction towards someone else. Sometimes looks also influence some people to a great extent. Like a very beautiful, slim trim, fit body before marriage and it becomes exactly the opposite after marriage. Things like husband’s belly protruding, baldness, freckles on wife’s face, obesity etc. also cause less interest in each other.
3. Many times there comes a time when the physical distance between husband and wife increases. Sexual life starts getting affected due to children, family responsibilities, pressure of office work, tension etc. Due to all these reasons, some couples lose interest in physical relations. Due to this, bitterness and irritation starts increasing in the relationship.
4. Everyday problems at home like quarrels over every issue, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law saying ‘you and daughter-in-law’, sister-in-law and sister-in-law arguing about household chores, etc. start to sour the relationship between husband and wife to a great extent. They start taunting each other’s family in every conversation. In some families, the husband takes the side of only his mother, while in some people he is able to take neither the mother’s nor the wife’s side. In this turmoil, he becomes even more irritable and gradually starts moving away from his wife. In such a situation, mutual understanding between husband and wife gradually reduces and instead of love, only bitterness dissolves in the relationship.
5. If the financial condition of the husband is not strong then this can also be a reason for bitterness in marital life. It has been seen in most of the houses that due to lack of money, daily needs are not fulfilled. Because of this the husband is not able to fulfill any of his wife’s wishes. Many times the husband drowns in debt due to financial constraints. The household budget gets spoiled. This is one of the main reasons for bitterness in married life.
6. Feeling neglected or unappreciated also leads to resentment or bitterness in the relationship. The spouse starts feeling neglected when the partner feels that he is doing all the work in the relationship. Their contribution is not being acknowledged. Over time, this can lead to feelings of resentment toward their partner.
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FIRST PUBLISHED : May 19, 2024, 10:22 IST
