Husband ignores things and hides emotions? Instead of fighting, make them comfortable like this

Marriage becomes successful through respect, trust as well as communication. When there is constant communication between husband and wife, there is no scope for suspicion, deception, misunderstanding and unnecessary fights. But many times wives complain that their husbands always remain silent. Even when she talks, he doesn’t respond. Many times he gets up from there without saying anything. His silence and ignoring scares his wife. Many questions start arising in the mind. Many times the wife thinks that the husband is having an extra-marital affair and that is why she does not talk to him. Whereas this does not happen. This silence of the husband can sometimes be a heavy burden on the marriage.

Who is the ‘silent husband’?
Relationship Expert at DGS Counseling Solution, Gurugram Dr. Gitanjali Sharma She says that ‘silent husband’ means a husband who talks less or does not talk at all. Such husbands do not express emotions. He neither shares his thoughts openly nor expresses his emotions. The problem arises when the wife is sharing everything with him but she does not know whether the husband is listening to her or not. It becomes a one-way communication. This behavior of the husband puts the wife in a dilemma that the husband does not understand her, does not love her. Due to this communication gap, the wife never knows whether the thoughts she is sharing with her husband are important for him or not. If the husband does not talk then they do not even know what is going on in his mind or in his life. Husband does not even spend time with her. Due to this, distance starts to arise between the two and the marriage becomes weak.

Husband’s silence in the dispute between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law
A silent husband is never a mother’s lover, so if he is not talking to his wife, he does not talk to his mother either. After marriage, when a girl comes to a new house, she feels that her husband is the only person with whom she can express her feelings or express her problems openly. But if there is a dispute between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, then she gets upset because the husband does not want to get involved in their fights or arguments. Actually, the silent husband feels that everything gets better with time, so he ignores all these things. If the boy is not able to maintain the balance between wife and mother then there will be issues in every marriage.

Silent husbands sometimes share their emotions physically (Image-Canva)

Society created ‘silent husband’
General of Social and Personal Relationship Did a study on this and found that in our society, boys are brought up in such a way that they become strong by hiding their emotions. ‘Men don’t feel pain’, ‘Boys don’t cry’, ‘You are strong, why are you crying?’ These words of parents and society stop boys from expressing their feelings, hence they do not express their feelings to anyone. Do not share with. They suppress their feelings since childhood because they want to appear strong in front of others. When such a boy grows up and becomes a husband, he does not know how to share his feelings.

No communication, no intimacy
If there is no communication between husband and wife, it also affects their intimacy. Intimacy is directly related to emotions. When there is no emotional connection between a couple, the love and respect between them also starts decreasing. In such a situation, intimacy disappears in their married life. The couple is living under the same roof but is far away from each other.

Give safe space to husband to talk so that he does not come under pressure (Image-Canva)

Try to understand your husband
It is the nature of ‘silent husbands’ not to express themselves, but such boys have a different way of showing love. He expresses love in a non-verbal way i.e. without talking. They have their own unique communication style. Understand their facial expressions, eyes, gestures and body language. The wife needs to pay attention to his personality. It is a slow process but once his non-verbal style is understood, the wife can make him feel comfortable. Make them feel so safe that they feel comfortable sharing their feelings. It is difficult to extract the things sitting in his mind but not impossible. When they trust their wife that she will keep their conversations limited to themselves, then such boys start being open with their wives. If there is still problem then seek help from a professional. Get husband counseling done from a relationship counselor.

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