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On Instagram, Tulisa Contostavlos’ now-viral video of her sexual identity confession has her speaking about demisexuality and here’s everything you need to know about it.
Tulisa Contostavlos opens up about identifying as demisexual. (Image: Instagram)
English singer and former X-Factor judge Tulisa Contostavlos discusses her sexual orientation for the first time in the most recent season of the British television show I’m a Celebrity…Get Me Out of Here. According to the N-Dubz singer, she is ‘demisexual’ and that in order to be sexually attracted to someone, she must have a strong emotional bond with them.
In the video, Tulisa shares personal details about herself with her teammates. She frankly states that dating someone ‘makes me feel physically sick’ and even makes her want ‘to throw up.’
Tulisa further revealed during the candid conversation about her personal life that she has been celibate for over three years now.
Watch the video here:
What Is Demisexuality?
Among the asexual range is demisexuality, a less well-known sexual orientation. Only after developing a strong emotional connection with someone do demisexuals feel attracted to them sexually. It’s about emotional closeness, trust, and understanding rather than looks or instant chemistry.
According to Tulisa’s confession, casual dating or hookups might be awkward or even upsetting for demisexual people. She clarified that she gets physically sick at the mere idea of dating someone who lacks emotional depth. This emphasises demisexuality’s distinct emotional framework, which places a higher value on deep relationships than transient attraction.
In the early 2000s, the term ‘demisexual’ came into being, providing a vocabulary for people who felt cut off from traditional sexual standards. For people who live on emotional resonance, demisexuality is freeing, despite the fact that it may seem restricted to others.
Tulisa’s candour promotes acceptance and understanding by giving this orientation much-needed visibility. Her narrative serves as a reminder that there are many different kinds of love and attraction and to value individuality when it comes to issues of the heart.
