Famous Tamil actor Jayam Ravi divorced his wife Aarti after 15 years of marriage. Jayam shared this news with his fans on social media. His divorce is no less than a shock for his fans. This famous couple of South Industry had celebrated their wedding anniversary with great pomp on 4th June this year. This couple was their ideal for the people. People are angry with the sudden divorce of this ‘happy couple’. However, Jaime clearly wrote in his post that he did not take this decision in haste. After much thought and discussion, they took the difficult decision of ending the marriage. After all, why do husband and wife, who appear to be a happy couple in the eyes of the world, maintain a bitter relationship while remaining silent? Why does divorce happen after many years of marriage? Why does it become a compulsion for couples to maintain the false relationship of marriage?
Does it remove the burden of responsibilities?
Jayam and Aarti had a love marriage. Both of them dated each other for a long time and then got married. That means marriage started with love. Even in arranged marriage, couples understand each other and start loving each other. But on how a loving beginning turns to bitterness Relationship counselor Priyanka Srivastava She says that love between couples does not start in the bedroom but with daily behavior, care and conversation. As time passes, couples do not remember when they themselves went away while fulfilling the responsibilities of family and children. In order to run the family properly, their relationship gets broken.
Do women change after having children?
When the husband touches, kisses or hugs the wife, the woman’s body produces the hormone oxytocin. But when a woman becomes a mother, she gets this hormone from the touch of the child. In such a situation, when the husband wants to come close to her, the wife starts ignoring him. Women do all this not by their own will, but because of hormones. When the intimacy between husband and wife starts ending, their relationship also reaches the verge of ending.
Jayam and Aarti got married in 2009. He also has 2 children.(Image-Instagram)
Being betrayed breaks your heart
There can be many reasons for divorce. Relationship counselor Priyanka Srivastava She says that bitterness in relationships does not come in a day. When couples’ anger does not come out immediately, hatred starts increasing in their minds. Relationships between couples often break due to deception. This cheating need not be an extra material affair. Even when the things told by one’s partner in trust reach a relative or friend, the person still feels cheated. That means cheating can be not only physical but also emotional.
Do not break marriage for children
When couples become parents, their relationship becomes more challenging. When there is no sweetness in their own relationships, the upbringing of their children also comes into trouble. Every parent wants to give a good future to their children and want to provide them good upbringing. For the sake of the children, many parents go ahead with the marriage out of compulsion even when they do not agree to it. They are husband and wife to the world and mother and father to their children but are strangers to each other.
Divorce of mind happens first
What will people say if you get divorced? Many couples are afraid of this. In fact, they are an ideal couple in the eyes of society, friends and relatives. The pictures on social media and the smile on her face at every family function show everyone that her life is perfect. There are so many tears behind this artificial smile, no one wants to show it because it harms their social image. Relationship counselor Priyanka Srivastava says that Even though there are only 1% divorces in India as compared to the rest of the world, the reality is that even before the legal divorce on paper, there is already a mental divorce between the couple. This is called silent separation.
Most divorces in the world take place in the month of January. (Image-Canva)
Most divorces at the age of 40?
Tamil actor Jayam Ravi is 43 years old. Arbaaz Khan and Hrithik Roshan also got divorced after crossing the age of 40. A study was conducted in America on why most divorces occur after the age of 40. At this age in the study Frustrated Forties It was said that the first reason for divorce was said to be lack of compatibility. After this, intimacy and domestic violence were considered the reasons.
Marriage at an early age is also a reason
of America ‘Law Offices of Todd’s Mohicans’ A study published in 2015 revealed that 45% of couples who married before the age of 25 were divorced. Those who got married at an older age did not get divorced. According to the study, people who marry at a young age are not mature. In marriage one has to change oneself and compromise but young couples are not able to understand this.
It is important to forgive each other and move ahead in life.
The label of divorcee is a black spot in our society. After divorce, couples do not even like to see each other. But Relationship counselor Priyanka Srivastava She believes that if the marriage does not work, it does not mean that your ex-partner is a wrong person. A failed marriage means that you are separated from each other. The sooner we understand this, the easier it will be to forgive each other. If the couple are parents, then this thing is more important for them because you will always be the parents for your child, even if you are not together.
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FIRST PUBLISHED : September 10, 2024, 2:08 PM IST
