Remember Preeti (Kiara Advani) from Kabir Singh or Badrunisa (Alia Bhatt) from Darlings. Both the poor women were so deeply in love that they even found their partner’s torture as love. She used to get beaten but was thankful that her love also loved her. This is exactly like the lyrics of Pakistan’s famous song ‘Lab pe aati hai dua ban ke tamanna meri’ composed on the poetry of Allama Iqbal – Biwi ko nahi bhave hai bhagawat karna, dhamkiyan de to tassli hoke thappad na pada, pade thappad to karoon shukar ‘The shoe is missing’. Most of the women in our country live under the misconception that every restriction, abuse and angry slap on the cheeks of their husband is their way of expressing their love. is it really love or love bombing ?
Love bombing is another name for a bitter relationship.
love bombing In this, the partner is abused psychologically and emotionally but at the same time he is given expensive gifts or flowers. Excessive love is expressed over dinner, dating or long drives. Praise is given unnecessarily so that the relationship does not end even after harassing the partner. girls often love bombing Is a victim of. Love bombing is another name for gaslighting. It starts immediately after dating or marriage.
Everything that your husband says must be obeyed!
In comparison to the world, the divorce rate in India is only 1% whereas NCRB According to the report, more than 1 lakh women are victims of domestic violence. The divorce rate is low because National Family Health Survey 2019-21 In the survey, 83.8% women agreed that everything should be obeyed by their husband. Whereas in 2019-20 Pew Research In India too, 9 out of 10 Indians believed the same. The husband may throw away the plate of bread if there is too much salt in the vegetable, pull his wife’s hair or abuse her, but the husband is good because he loves.
28811 cases of domestic violence were registered in the National Commission of Women in the year 2023 (Image-Canva)
Endurance is another name for love?
The wife’s screams of pain and the marks of beating on her body disappear with a few loving words from the husband. ‘If he doesn’t love then why does he kill? And if you don’t love then why would you tolerate? Is love another name for tolerance? in Gurugram Relationship Counselor Dr.Geetanjali Sharma It is said that strength is shown to those who are considered weak. The husband also takes out all his anger on the wife because she is ready to tolerate it. A woman tolerates as long as she is afraid, the day her fear comes out, she can overpower her husband. Physical torture is understandable. But her mind was played with in such a way that she did not understand that she was becoming a victim of mental abuse.
Why does love make women emotional?
Someone rightly said that love is blind. Women in love are unable to understand what kind of brain game is being played with them. In fact, the lymphatic system of women’s brain is larger in size than that of men, which makes them more emotional. Love hormones called serotonin and oxytocin are also released more in women. PEW’s research According to 93% women marry only to find love. They need support along with love. Despite torture, when men talk to them in a loving manner, women get confused and become helpless. At the same time, women start feeling insecure about what will happen to them if their husband leaves them. Women who are housewives. She is also worried about money and how she will live her life.
Torture by a vicious partner makes the victim mentally ill (Image-Canva)
Humiliating in front of others is also abuse
Many women are very happy with their husbands because their husbands neither abuse them nor raise their hands. But if the husband ever humiliates his wife on her taste in food or dressing sense in front of his parents or friends at a wedding or party, is that right? Commenting or insulting your wife in front of others is also abuse.
mind is controlled
In this, a person’s thinking ability is destroyed and he is made a puppet in one’s own hands. That means controlling that person’s mind. love bombing or say u gaslighting This happens only when the person is continuously proved wrong, he is repeatedly shown something far from reality so that he feels that what is happening is true. Many times partners adopt this to cover up their mistake and prove themselves right.
understand your self worth
If you apologize every now and then, you are blamed even if you are not at fault, everything you say is denied, you are humiliated, words like idiot and crazy are spoken, your memory and your very existence are affected. If questions are raised, you are in pain not in love. Some people call this terrible form of relationship as gaslighting and some as love bombing, but instead of naming the relationship like this, it is better that you understand your own value and save yourself from this mental torture.
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FIRST PUBLISHED : September 15, 2024, 1:13 PM IST
